New year and old friends

by Monday, January 09, 2017 0 comments
Another new year day is gone around the corner 'again' . What should we talk about? New year resolutions,  parties, holidays etc. May be we should, yes we can talk about them too but today let's talk about something that we have avoided for a long time. Friends.

Not the ones that we make at new year parties. The ones we left years ago and never talked to. As humans we are blessed with the skill to make friends every where we go and also leave them whenever we deem it fit with least amount of regrets.

But why do we feel some thing heavy on our hearts when someone talks about them? Why don't they just leave our minds alone? Surely I'm not talking about your ex here! People who were friends. Who were part of the best of your memories and who knew the darkest of your secrets. 
Friends essentially provide balance to your life that your family and your spouse cannot.
This new year lets talk to them again and start the new year in a better way let's see how:

  1. Letting go will make you feel better
    Often we don't leave people because they are good. We leave them because they did something that was not good as you saw it. But why keep their bad memories and frown every time we hear their name? Forgive them from the depths of your heart. Call them, wish them a new year and tell them you hold no grudges. You'll feel lighter and better.
  2. You did something wrong
    You need two hands to clap. If you think they did something wrong so they may think the same as well for you. Just like the two faces of a coin your fight has two faces and your side of the story may not be the right one. Say sorry, listen to their side with an open and cooled mind. Who knows you may discover a different angle to the story!
  3. Because common friends don't talk to them
    This is the worst case scenario that can happen in a group of friends. One stops talking to two and three is asked not to talk to one. Your friendship with every individual is as different as a cut on a diamond. Different! but giving the diamond (read friendship) a distinct finish. Peer pressure does exist but so does your freedom to choose. 
  4. We think they are busy'It has been ages since we have talked. He is busy'. No doubt that person may be busy but you can always approach first simply because it does not make you a smaller person. Although you should not over do it. Give them a fair and square chance to know that you remember them and you want to catch up.
    Everybody is provided with the same 24 hours and 7 days of the week.
  5. They have moved on
    Since the last time you had a fight they have moved on and now their social media updates prove that too. There is no harm in moving on and every one should too. If you have anything to say to them, talk to them and take it out of your mind. Do take care you would not like to hurt anyone's feelings but do not keep them up to you only.
  6. We are busy and they'll understand
    This can be the worst thing you can say to yourself. Fine! friends understand but so should you. There is a limit to every thing and that includes waiting for you to show up too. If they are asking you to meet up take out some time and meet them. Everybody is provided with the same 24 hours and 7 days of the week and every task is important. Prioritize your work and your friends as well. Reschedule your work, skip your gym for a day or even sacrifice you nap if you have to but find some time for your friends. If they can take out time for you, you can too.
  7. Your friends are not at your school/college/office etc.
    This is perhaps the only reason one does not have any control over. People switch, change their place, go to new colleges etc and we adjust to our daily routine. Good friends are not dependent on the platform you meet them. They are dependent on the chemistry that develops between two people. Limiting your 'friends' to your current job/place will result in a long list of acquaintances and colleagues but no real friends.
 Good friends become family and maybe even more given the feeling of mutual friendship is nurtured selflessly
Friendship is precious, the simplest of the bonds that two humans can have and can be the toughest one to maintain. Good friends become family and maybe even more given the feeling of mutual friendship is nurtured selflessly. Friends essentially provide balance to your life that your family and your spouse cannot. The time you give to them is the time you have invested and shall come to you when you need it the most.

Do meet new people this year, get cozy, maybe leave some of them but if you have any friends keep them close.
Have a great week and even better new year ahead.

Happy New Year!